Lilian (Turner) Aubin
April 12, 1932~March 17, 2023
Lilian May Aubin was known for her twinkling eyes, impeccable dress, a British accent, a lovely smile, and her sense of humor. She passed away peacefully on March 17, just weeks before her 91st birthday.
Lilian was born in Edmonton, England, in 1932, one of nine children of Mabel and Frederick Turner. She moved to Massachusetts from England in the summer of 1966 with her first husband Kazimierz “Tony” Bartolik, whom she married in 1951.
It wasn’t easy to start a new life in a new country–her first experience was a humid night with the windows open in a Lynn hotel with sirens screaming by through much of the night. The next day she gathered the family, including an 18-month infant, for a stroll to Kings Beach in Lynn and Swampscott, dressed in their Sunday best and drawing bemused stares from the natives. It took a while to adapt to a more casual way of living.
Finding an apartment in Swampscott across from the beach made it all worthwhile. Her many friends remember her as adventurous with a love of the ocean. She was also known as a fabulous cook who made the best Yorkshire Puddings. She loved to dine and share a glass of wine with friends.
Lilian and most of her siblings were transported out of London to Devon in Southeast England to avoid the blitz during World War II.
Called Lily or Lil by her friends, she worked as a waitress at Hawthorne-by-the-Sea in Swampscott and later at the Continental and Hilltop restaurants on Route 1 in Saugus. She later worked as a teller at Eastern Bank.
Lilian married Joseph H. Aubin Jr. in December 1985 in the clifftop house they built together overlooking Rumney Marsh. There they would host deck and pool parties for friends and an extended family that includes Joe’s children from his first marriage.
She had a tribe of woman friends who she spent many a weekend away with in New Hampshire and at Cape Cod. She will be remembered as a woman who always was there for her friends and family when they most needed it.
After Joe’s untimely death in 1995, she continued to live in the same home until late 2017, when she was approved for senior housing at 19 Talbot Street, Saugus, and made many new friends as she lived independently for the rest of her years.
She was preceded in death by her son Anthony “Tony” Bartolik. She is survived by her sons Peter Bartolik and his wife Rosemary of Moseley, VA; and Adam Bartolik and his wife Kara of Aurora, CO. She was the proud grandmother of Ashleigh Bartolik, Colin Bartolik, Gordon Bartolik and Philip Pitts. Earlier this year she was happy to become a great-grandmother to Brady James Bartolik.
She is also survived by siblings Jessica Clews, Jim Turner, and Pauline O’Connell, all of England, as well as Maureen Taylor of New Zealand. Also, Joe’s children, Susan Aubin of Iowa, Kathy Zaffiro and husband Roy of Plymouth, MA, Elizabeth Aubin Vucurevic and husband Nick of Huntington Beach CA, Joseph “Jay” Aubin and wife Chris of Georgetown, MA, and Paul Aubin and wife Ivellesse of Glastonbury, CT. Also, grandchildren Barrett and Travis Rolph,, Joseph Aubin, Thomas and Roy Aubin, Savannah Aubin, and Bella and Julia Vucurevic.
A celebration of life is planned for a later date and funeral services will be private.
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