Richard Abineri

Richard Abineri of Brookline, MA passed away peacefully on March 20, 2020 surrounded by family after a valiant fight against multiple myeloma. He will be missed by his wife Barbara (Boase) Abineri after 50 wonderful years of marriage. He is survived by daughter Laura Gurry, son-in-law Adam Gurry, granddaughters Lila (8) and Nora (5) Gurry; siblings Tessa, David and Adrian and many aunts, uncles and cousins.

Born in the UK, Dick at age 11 emigrated with his family to the US and settled in Cleveland, OH. He graduated from Lakewood High School. At University of Michigan he met wife Barbara then graduated with a BS and MS in Mechanical Engineering.

Married in 1969, Dick and Barbara settled in Wilmington, DE where Dick starting working for IBM as a Systems Engineer. His 25 years with IBM included various technical, management and executive roles, including 4 years in Europe (Rome, Paris, London) before making his home in Ridgefield, CT where he spent 20 years and where daughter Laura was born. After officially retiring from IBM, Dick enjoyed two more mini careers with SCT (Systems & Computer Technology) and New England Confectionary (NECCO).

Always an avid swimmer and tennis player, Dick particularly enjoyed spending time at his Chatham, MA summer home where he welcomed friends and hosted family reunions. His favorite times were spent with his two granddaughters, teaching them tennis and sharing his love of sailing. They will always have special memories of their “Bubba”.

Please take a moment to remember your own special times with Dick. If you wish to make a small donation, choose the charity of your choice or the Multiple Myeloma Research Foundation (MMRF).


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24 Condolences

  1. Andrew Kimball on March 25, 2020 at 2:31 pm


    Though I never met your father, I enjoyed learning about him through all your stories you shared.

    I look forward to hearing many more.


  2. Lovia Mondesir on March 25, 2020 at 3:59 pm

    Dear Laura,

    I would like to offer you my sincere condolences and support in this personal sad time. I wish that you and your family find peace and solace by cherishing your dad’s memory.
    Thank you for kindness and generosity.

    May your kindness and generosity continue to illuminate the lives of your loved ones.


  3. Holly Irvin on March 25, 2020 at 4:33 pm

    Dear Laura,
    I am so sorry to hear that your wonderful father passed away. Much love to you and your family. So sorry.
    Love, Holly

  4. Paul Lauro-Priestly on March 25, 2020 at 8:29 pm

    Dear Laura please know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. So very sorry for your loss.
    Peace & love

  5. Dominique Gonyer on March 25, 2020 at 10:40 pm


    I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m sure your dad was incredibly proud of you and all of your accomplishments, especially those sweet little girls.



  6. Dick Davis on March 26, 2020 at 1:01 am

    Such sad news.
    My sympathy to his family.
    Dick was a true gentleman on and off the court.
    He will be missed.

  7. Michael Gordon on March 26, 2020 at 4:28 am

    Dick and Barb have been my friends for more than 50 years. He was taken from his family far to early. We will hold him in our memories.
    Btw, he was the brightest guy I ever worked with.
    Barb, Laura …. be safe.

  8. Sarah Laurello & AB Family on March 26, 2020 at 4:19 pm

    Abineri family,
    We are so sorry for your loss. Through the years with the Boston Bionic Ear Association, Dick was always a smile and helping hand. We know that both he and Barbara have touched the lives of so many around them. The whole team at AB is sending comforting thoughts your way.

  9. Rev. Anne Bonney on March 26, 2020 at 4:50 pm

    Laura, I am shocked and saddened to hear about your Father …. I have always felt so privileged to have been able to be involved with your beautiful family in the blessings of your children! My heart goes out to you. May you feel the healing light and love of God surround you now and in the days ahead … much love, Rev. Anne Bonney

  10. Emily A McGinnis on March 27, 2020 at 3:57 pm

    Dear Laura,

    I am so sorry for your profound loss. I know that your beloved father was incredibly dear to you. Sending you, your mom and your family lots of love.


  11. peter and kim chipman on March 28, 2020 at 12:51 am

    Barbara, Laura, Adam and the kids,

    We are heartbroken to learn of the loss of our first neighbors in Chatham.

    We can think of only two ways to describe Dick – A class act and a true gentleman. So sorry for your loss

    Kim and Peter

  12. Jill Bydalek on March 28, 2020 at 8:48 pm

    Dear Barbara,

    We are incredibly sad to hear this news. Dick was considerate, smart and always in motion. We are glad to have been your neighbors on the Cape. Thoughts and prayers to your lovely family.

    Jill and Mike Bydalek

  13. Michele Hudon on March 29, 2020 at 1:21 pm

    Dear Barb,

    I am saddened by your loss and send condolences to you and your family.
    My thoughts are with you all at this challenging time. A long distance hug to you.


  14. Pauline Dufresne on March 29, 2020 at 2:38 pm

    This is such sad time for all of you. Dick was a very special person – I will always miss him. Please remember you remain each day in my thoughts. Your obituary tribute to him is so fitting and beautiful.

    With my most heartfelt sympathy,

  15. Erin Koch on March 31, 2020 at 10:15 pm

    Laura and Barb,

    A beautiful tribute to a wonderful man. In these difficult times I’m glad you have each other to love and support. We all wrap our arms around you and the girls. Dick was humorous, humble and a wonderful Bubba to Lila and Nora. Wishing you peace and love in the coming days and weeks.

    Erin, Dani, Robby and Oliver

  16. Joan Hardy on April 1, 2020 at 1:35 pm

    Dick worked very hard for our condominium association for many years. Holding all of you in the light of peace and healing in your grief.

  17. Kate Motta on April 1, 2020 at 2:35 pm

    We are so very sorry to hear of this huge loss. Your Dad and Mom have always been such supporters and fans of our a cappella singing and felt like an important part of our signing family. Though we didn’t know him well, your Dad was clearly an amazing father and member of his family and community. Our hearts are with you, your Mom and your whole family during this very sad time. All our love,
    The Mottas

  18. Aude on April 1, 2020 at 7:58 pm

    Ma si précieuse Laura, je suis infiniment triste pour toi et je t’envoie toute mon affection. J’aimerais pouvoir prendre ne serait-ce qu’un peu de ta peine, par-delà l’océan qui nous sépare. Je te souhaite tout le courage possible et je t’adresse mille pensées d’amitié.

  19. Izabella Mazhbits on April 1, 2020 at 11:14 pm

    Dear Barbara,

    Our sincere condolences. Dick was an important part of the condominium association and helpful to everyone.
    I feel blessed to have both of you recently in my apartment, having cup of tea and showing my Russian paintings. For us, your husband and you were the source of light and warm even in the cold and nasty weather.
    With respect and sympathy, Izabella and John

  20. Megan on April 5, 2020 at 2:47 pm

    A wonderful person and example of a great father and husband. The world needs more people like Dick, and was a better place with him in it. Sorry Laura for your loss, and to your mother and his family as well.

  21. Lucy and Bill Sherman on April 16, 2020 at 7:06 pm

    Dear Barb, Laura, Adam, Lily, and Nora,

    We will miss Dick greatly. He was always gracious, warm, and happy to be around friends. He loved his family, enjoyed his work, and hobbies and was good at them all. We are so sorry Dick could not have spent many more years with you and us.
    Wishing you love and comfort.

    Lucy and Bill Sherman

  22. Lucy Sherman on April 16, 2020 at 7:13 pm

    Dear Barb, Laura, Adam, Lily, and Nora,

    We will miss Dick greatly. He was always gracious, warm, and happy to be around friends. He loved his family, enjoyed his work, and hobbies and was good at them all. We are so sorry Dick could not have spent many more years with you and us.
    Wishing you love and comfort.

    Lucy and Bill Sherman

  23. Bob on August 28, 2021 at 7:03 pm

    So sad Dick was a good person

  24. Dave on March 19, 2024 at 11:28 pm

    Please accept my condolences for your loss. I worked for Dick when he was VP of Development at SCT. He was a warm, genuine, and gracious person. Late at night, when most of the office was empty save for a few hardcore programmers still working on their code, Dick would gather us up and take us down the street to Bob Evans to ensure we were nourished. Dick influenced many of our lives in a positive way and he is surely missed.

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